7 Reasons Couples Are Done Asking “What Do You Want to Do?”
By Claire Bennett
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— a post on Reddit
REASON 1: THE PLAN IS ALREADY MADE
You know the talk. “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” Twenty minutes later you’re back on the couch. With this book, one of you opens to any page, the other one says “that one,” and you’re done deciding.
REASON 2: THREE STEPS. THAT’S THE WHOLE PLAN.
Every date fits on one page in plain words. Pull out the old photo boxes. Take turns telling the story nobody else knows. Pick one you both love and put it where you’ll see it every day. That’s a whole date. No research, no booking ten things.
REASON 3: MOST OF THEM COST NOTHING
Almost half the dates are free, and most of the rest don’t cost much. A slow dance in the kitchen. A walk around your own street after dark with a flashlight. A few are worth saving up for, like a night at a cabin. The little cost icon tells you which is which before you start.
REASON 4: A DATE FOR EVERY KIND OF WEEKEND
Some are cozy and stay home. Some are just silly. Some get you out of the house, and a few are small adventures, like a coin-flip drive where the passenger flips and the driver has to obey. Icons on every page show the mood, home or out, the cost and how long it takes.
REASON 5: EVERY DATE GETS ITS OWN ALBUM PAGE
Turn the page and there’s a frame for a photo, a spot for the day and the place, five hearts to rate it and room for the best part. By the end of the year you won’t have a book of ideas. You’ll have a book about the two of you.
REASON 6: IT’S DOING, NOT TALKING
No advice. No questions about your feelings. No lecture about date night. Each date comes with one little together challenge, like hanging the worst drawing on the fridge for a whole week. You’re on the same team the whole time.
REASON 7: 30 DAYS. FULL REFUND. NO HOOPS.
Do a few dates. If your weekends still look the same, email us within 30 days for a full refund. Keep the book.
Dates & Us — 52 Dates to Do Together
Dates & Us — 52 Dates to Do Together
- 52 dates, one for every weekend of the year
- Space on every date for notes, a rating and a photo
- No planning, no big spend, no advice. Just go
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What’s Inside
What’s Inside
Softcover, 8 × 10 inches.
52 date ideas, one for each weekend of the year. Some are cozy and quiet, some are playful, some are a little adventurous. At home or out. Every date has space to write what happened, give it a rating and add a photo. There’s no right order.
How It Works
How It Works
Open to any page. Do the date this weekend, not someday. Afterward, write down how it went, rate it, and stick in a photo. Next weekend, pick another one.
By the end of the year the book is an album of your weekends.
Shipping & Guarantee
Shipping & Guarantee
Most orders arrive in 10–15 business days, anywhere in the U.S. Flat $4.95 tracked shipping.
30-day money-back guarantee: if it doesn’t earn its spot on your coffee table, email us and we refund the full price. Keep the book.
Four dates from the book
Pick one. Do it this weekend.
Every date is a plan on the left page and an album page on the right. Here are four of the 52, word for word.
Cozy · Home · Free
The Old Photo Night
- Pull out every old photo box, album and phone folder you can find.
- Take turns picking one and telling the story nobody else knows.
- Pick one photo you both love and put it somewhere you’ll see it every day.
An evening
Playful · Out · $
Supermarket Sweep
- Each of you gets $15 and 15 minutes in the same grocery store.
- Shop on your own. No peeking in each other’s cart.
- Go home and turn both bags into one dinner, no matter what’s in them.
An evening
Cozy · Home · Free
Slow Dance in the Kitchen
- Make a playlist of songs from the year you met.
- Turn the lights down and push a chair out of the way.
- Dance. Nobody’s watching, so it doesn’t matter how.
1 hour
Playful · Out · $
Coin-Flip Drive
- Get in the car with a coin and no plan.
- At every big turn, flip it. Heads, go left. Tails, go right.
- After 30 minutes, stop and eat at the first place you see.
Half a day
Four moods. 52 weekends.
Every date has two pages: the plan on the left, the album on the right. Here’s how the book is put together.
Six more dates, word for word
Steps on top, the together challenge underneath.
Out & About · $ · Half a day
Farmers Market Morning
1. Go early, when it’s quiet and the best stuff is still out.
2. Each of you buys one thing you’d never buy at the store.
3. Make lunch with whatever you brought home.
Challenge: get a stall owner to tell you their favorite way to cook what they sell.
Playful · Free · 1 hour
Draw Each Other Blind
1. Sit across from each other with paper and a pen.
2. Draw each other’s face without looking down at the paper. You get two minutes.
3. Swap drawings. Then try again with your eyes open.
Challenge: hang the worst drawing on the fridge for a whole week.
Playful · Free · An evening
Restaurant at Home
1. One of you is the chef. The other is the waiter.
2. Write a small menu with a fancy name for every dish.
3. Set the table like a real restaurant. Candles, napkins, the works.
Challenge: the waiter stays in character all night. Tips are paid in kisses.
Adventure · Free · 1 hour
Night Walk
1. After dark, walk your own neighborhood with a flashlight.
2. Go slow and take a street you never take.
3. Stop and listen. Count the sounds you hear.
Challenge: walk the last block holding hands without saying a word.
Adventure · Free · A whole day
Backyard Campout
1. Set up a tent in the backyard. No yard? Use the living room.
2. Make s’mores, tell stories and leave the phones inside.
3. Sleep out there. The real bed is right there if you need it.
Challenge: make it all the way to sunrise outside.
Out & About · Free · An evening
Holiday Lights Drive
1. Make hot cocoa in travel mugs and put on holiday music.
2. Drive around the neighborhoods known for big light displays.
3. Pick the house that wins and slow down every time you pass it.
Challenge: each of you picks the most over-the-top house. Go back and vote.
Every kind of couple. Every kind of weekend.
Kitchen table, picking Saturday
Long-distance, saving it for the visit
Twenty years married
First apartment
Grandparents, still dating
Road trip, coin in the cupholder
The usual weekend vs. a Dates & Us weekend
| The usual | With the book | |
|---|---|---|
| Friday night | “What do you want to do?” | You picked it on Tuesday |
| The plan | Same restaurant, same two dishes | Three easy steps on one page |
| The cost | Dinner out, again | Most dates are free or close to it |
| The phones | Out on the table | Busy taking the photo for the album |
| Sunday | Can’t remember what you did | It’s written down, rated and stuck in the book |
The Book By The Numbers
One Date, Start to Finish
Pick one
Open to any page, or flip until one of you says “that one.” There’s no order to follow.
- Mood: cozy, playful, out & about or adventure
- Where: home or out
- Cost: free, $ or $$
- Time: an hour, an evening, half a day or a whole day
Read the plan
Three short steps in everyday words. Read it over coffee, do it that night.
- Step one, step two, step three
- A little line drawing of the date
- A together challenge box
Do the challenge
Every date comes with one little together challenge to make it yours. Same team, always.
- Pick your lunch spot by smell
- The passenger flips the coin. The driver obeys
- Tips are paid in kisses
Fill in the album
Turn the page. Write when and where, stick in a photo and rate it.
- The day and the place
- A frame for your photo
- Five hearts to rate it
- The best part
- Next time, we’ll…
Tick it off
The checklist at the front holds all 52. Check the box and write the day you did it.
- No rush
- No order
- Skip a weekend, do two the next
Look back on the year
The last spread is for the best of it.
- Our favorite date of all
- The one we laughed the hardest on
- The one we’d do again tomorrow
- A photo of the two of you, one year later
It’s not the date. It’s the two of you.
Two Phones, One Couch
Nothing’s wrong. You just stopped going anywhere together.
Nobody Loses
No points, no winner. Just the two of you on the same side.
Five Hearts
Rating the date is half the fun. Expect a fight over four hearts or five.
The Gift That Gets Used
Not another candle. A year of Saturdays, wrapped.
Dark at Five
Plenty of the dates happen at home, so cold weather cancels nothing.
Your Handwriting
Years from now you’ll flip back and find the day you did the coin-flip drive.
Do a few dates. If your weekends still feel the same, we refund it.
Email us within 30 days for a full refund. Keep the book.
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